Monday, October 25, 2010

What Is Your Ministry? Part 3

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Now that we know that our ministries should be about ministering to the needs of others, what do we do? How can the working woman be about the business of meeting the needs of others?

The first thing to realize is that it is often possible to minister to someone without that person’s knowledge. We can, and should, always pray for our husbands, our children, our church family, those we know who need God, those who need Him to work in this or that situation, …, this list could go on forever! You may feel led to tell someone you are praying for them or not, but pray nonetheless.

Secondly, be sure to keep your priorities in order. The most important people you need to minister to are those in your immediate family. Your husband and children should always be your first priority, with all but devotion to Christ trailing behind.

It may not be popular with the feminists, but your husband needs to know you are taking care of his household and his children. He needs your attention just like you need his. Take time to discuss your individual days and the trials you are each facing away from home. Pray for each other. If you are working outside the home by mutual decision and for the benefit of the family, be sure to communicate with him about how you can help him as well as about how he can help you – the housework and the laundry must be done, and the burden is often too heavy to carry alone. Talk about your hopes and dreams and his, and be interested in things he is interested in.

In addition, realize that your children need you to be accessible. Talk also with them about their hopes and dreams, their friends, and all the little goings-on in their lives. Don’t try to solve all their problems, but guide them through making the decisions that will help them to solve their own problems. You are building a relationship of trust that will last a lifetime, and they need your guidance in order to stay on Christ’s narrow path.

After you have seen to the needs of your immediate family, look to the needs of your extended family. 1 Timothy 5:4 says, “But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God.” If your parents, in-laws or grandparents are in need of assistance, be sure that you contribute time or money or both toward their care. And perhaps more importantly, don’t forget that just spending time with them can be the greatest gift of all.

Next, if you feel strongly that God is leading you to work in the nursery or teach a Sunday School class or serve on a committee or in a church outreach, by all means do it! Just realize that God is not going to expect you to do all of these at once in addition to the commitments you have to your family. Pray sincerely about any task to which you feel led to commit, and talk with your husband about it. Use the wisdom God has given your husband as the head of the family as the litmus test for your commitments – if he has reservations, pray about it more or simply don’t do it. I have found that my husband’s direction in these matters has been spot on every time – particularly commitments I have gone ahead and made that he had felt were too much to take on (which I invariably came to regret later).

Also, if you are aware of any needs in your church family, do or contribute what you can. Send an email or a card to tell someone you are thinking about them. A little, thoughtful note can mean so much, and the time and money requirement for this small gesture is minimal, especially when you do not have the means to take or make a meal. As a Southern Baptist from the Heart of Dixie, I know that we tend to think that if someone we know has had a hospital stay or has sickness in the family that we should prepare at least a three-course meal to take to the family. However, take-out will be just as appreciated when there is a need. You most likely barely have time to cook for your own family, much less for someone else – so, don’t be ashamed to let the Colonel cook for you if you have the money to do so. You can still minister to a need, and it will be every bit as much appreciated by the recipients.

Lastly, look to your coworkers and neighbors. You can do the same for them when they are experiencing sickness or a death in the family, and in these cases you may be planting seeds for the kingdom which, in the future, might bear a crop! Those around you who are unsaved will greatly benefit from your small gestures, and you don’t know what doors God might open in their hearts through your acts of kindness. Also, be accessible. You might not have any idea what hardships and heartaches your coworkers or neighbors are dealing with – problems that might come to light as you are in the process of meeting a need – and who knows that you might be placed in their lives “for such a time as this” to gently guide another toward the Savior.

I encourage you today to begin to look towards how you can be Christ’s hands and feet by your actions as your ministry – your “ministering to others” – grows. I pray that you will be the “seed that fell on good soil” which “yielded a crop a hundred times more than was sown.” (from the Parable of the Sower, Luke 8:8).


  1. I really liked this post! I have always thought that home ministry comes before church ministries. I'm happy that we are like minded :)Not many women I know agree with me.

  2. Cindy,

    This is my first time at your blog, and I am enjoying what I am seeing and reading.

    I just read part 3 of your post regarding ministry, and I agree with what you've written. I'll need to read the other two parts when I have the time.

    At any rate, please feel free to visit my blog if you desire. I know that I will come back here for a visit in the near future. :)


    -Lady Rose

  3. Thank you, Lady Rose and Mom of 5, for your kind remarks! I am so glad you stopped by. Have a blessed day!


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